Finding love dating online – Let’s face it – online dating can be a mixed bag.
You could ﬁnd the love of your life or your could ﬁnd yourself getting ﬂeeced by a Nigerian dude who calls himself ‘Nella’ and appears to be a 5’6 blond woman with a generous bust size.
Here are a few tips to help evade the pitfalls!
If she’s smoking hot, she’s a spamming bot If it’s too good to be true, it probably is. Be honest, you have at least some gauge on how attractive you are. If someone way out of your league starts love bombing you and won’t let go, there is probably something not quite right going on and there may be a scam afoot! This may be obvious (i.e. they instantly introduce you to their ‘live webcam’). It may be less obvious (they groom you over months, meet you, kill you and impersonate you to collect beneﬁts). That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep an eye out for people you ﬁnd attractive but be careful!
People lie When you don’t know someone personally, you have far less inhibition about lying. People will do everything from lying about their jobs and income to posting photoshopped or old photos. You can’t assume that the slim 20-something lawyer that just messaged you isn’t a 45+ grocery clerk. So go in with an open mind and healthy scepticism! There are plenty of ﬁsh in the sea And you’re just one. So just remember that as many people as you are swiping left on or blocking, there’s every chance there are plenty doing it to you too! You may not become an instant success and it may take a while to meet some decent people. You may have to kiss a few frogs When you aren’t meeting face to face initially it’s hard to screen. There’s a pretty good chance you’ll have to meet quite a few duds on your way to meeting someone worth spending time with.
Expect to do your time on the way to love! There’s variety! People from all walks of life date online so you may meet people that aren’t the kind of people that go to the same places as you and hang out with the same people. That can be good! It can also be a disaster. A ﬂag waving greenie will not have a great night out with a dyed in the wool Trump support. Get used to things not always going your way. Despite the above concerns, dating online is cool now and a great way to meet new people. I’m the MC at a wedding in a few weeks for a couple who met online and instantly deleted their accounts. It can have a happy ending! Just make sure you do all you can to tip the odds in your favour!